Tuesday, 25 February 2014

What's Happening Here?

You reach 30, so do most of your friends ... and suddenly, a baby boom.

It seems most people I know are having babies, talking about babies, or are pregnant. It makes me feel like a weird tourist, pressing my face against a glass, looking in, and merely observing these happenings.

I for one, do not want children. I am as close to being maternal as Pluto is to the sun, even further would be more accurate! Now, here are my reasons why I do not want children, and I know I won't change my mind, no matter how far my internal clock is ticking:

1. Basic maths - why would I want to add to a global population bursting at 7 billion?
2. I'm selfish - I want my time and other resources to be spent on S.0 and I .
3. More goals - I feel I still want to study more, and by George, travel many more countries, and experience so much more...
4. Sleep - I love it, and I need a solid 8 to 9 hours a night - uninterrupted!
5. Maternal skills - I have nothing, nada, zilch, zero... it doesn't mean if I can show a lot of care to the adults in my life, that that is translated to showing it on children.
6. Logic - Some genes should NOT reproduce
7. My nature - I can't talk to, play with, or interact with anyone else's kids. I have not held a baby in my life. Children and I do not mix well at all.
8. Horror movie stuff - I have heard of the process of how the body changes during pregnancy, during birth, and even post childbirth. Horror movies sound more pleasant to me.

I am quite honest and vocal in these personal truths, and I hope I do not offend if it does not fit in with your point of view. And no matter whose child is put before me, these will still be my truths, unwavering, steadfast, and forevermore.


po said...

Wow, you basically have described me perfectly. My only problem is that I always assumed I would have kids cos that is what everyone does, and never really thought about it. I know that not having kids is a legitimate option but I am now having a hard time convincing myself that it is ok after assuming I would have them. I was reading the whole tearing, back widening agony that goes on during and after pregancy and almost had a panic attack. I also considered adoption for many years. Basically my brain tells me no and yes at the same time. Confusion!

Azra said...

I've held this view for a long time, but I do have bouts of severe broodyiness... and lately, I have come to the conclusion that one of two things are bound to happen:
1. it may happen and if it does happen I will deal, like everyone else.
2. it may not happen, and then I will deal.
Either way, I'm cool :)

Prixie said...

Po: Shame, that is confusion! Hope you find some peace soon, whatever you decide.

Azra: I feel broody too...but for a kitten or puppy! Love your mature approach to it. I cannot say I will be so reasonable if I do fall pregnant, despite birth control. I will freak, rant, and rave!